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The Elite of Our People

Like always, I only blog when inspired to do so. I am always taking in a wealth of information, and I love the idea that we are lifetime students of the universe. To somewhat piggyback off my previous entry where I spoke on the three elements that seem to suppress our minority society in America and coming across a wonderful book titled, “The Elite of Our People.” The book was authored in 1841 by Joseph Wilson who moved to Philly from the south to convince whites that African Americans have class and structure. To put things in perspective, in 1841 African Americans were still characterized by widespread discrimination and racism. I decided to title this blog as such after witnessing so many self-professed elite African Americans who have none of our ancestors' values nor rich culture from our heritage.  

Generally, seen as less racist than the South, African Americans in the North still faced segregated neighborhoods, and schools, employment discrimination in housing widespread low-paying jobs, and poor living conditions. Despite these challenges, many were able to achieve success in business, education, and the arts, breaking barriers, and challenging stereotypes. As for southern African Americans, life was extremely difficult due to systemic oppression and dehumanization. The southern economy was powered by the African American enslaved, considered property, with no legal rights or autonomy while experiencing abuse and deprivation of necessities. Separating families by selling them to different owners, a constant fear of punishment or even death for disobedience or attempting to escape. Despite these oppressive conditions, many African Americans resisted and found ways to maintain their dignity and community. They created their cultural practices, traditions, and forms of resistance, such as storytelling, music, religion, and secret meetings, and created the infamous Underground Railroad.


In 1841, African American couples engaged in informal courting rituals, such as attending church socials or dances, to spend time together and cement their relationships. Courting and relationships during that time from the north and south faced significant obstacles in forming and maintaining relationships due to the systemic discrimination they faced. Seeking to form meaningful relationships. They often relied on their community for support and connection, creating strong bonds with each other in the face of prejudice and discrimination. Considering all the factors they faced, African Americans still found value in taking a spouse or life partner. In today’s African American society, we are faced with Some of the issues that African American couples face today in relationships compared to those of the 1800s include; racial discrimination and systemic oppression, mental health stigma’s, lower wages, higher rates of unemployment, and limited access to generational wealth can impact their financial stability and ability to provide for their families. Add to that mass incarceration, mental health stigma, intergenerational trauma, stereotypes, and media representation and lastly, the Grand Puba of them all Economic Disparities! African American couples today continue to struggle with economic inequalities that can put a strain on their relationships spotlighting limited access to generational wealth can impact their financial stability and ability to provide for their families.


It's 2024, everyone is chasing “The Bag.” What bothers me is that there’s so many people out here dating for money, lifestyle, and the opinions of others. As I dated a gentleman in 2023, his family constantly asked what I did to attract their uncle, why was his nose open, and most of all they were fake nice towards me while silently judging me. What tripped me out was that many of them weren’t attractive, lacked social elegance, and considered themselves “old money.” None of them were millionaires but because their elders from the silent generation had a waterfront property the baby boomer’s generation were high earners and some belonged to societies. As I looked at the pretentious couples, many of them were unattractive physically and spiritually, some were products out of wedlock physically, and they were disconnected from their spouses barely tolerant of one another. Yet I was deemed unworthy of courting due to my social and economic lineage. What exactly is it that makes these individuals snooty and judgmental given the entire historic run down on African American relationships from this country’s conception to now? The goal at one point was to generate generational wealth not to be praised for social status, security, and material possessions as per my previous blog titled, “The Fountain of Youth.” My response to those who questioned why I was with the person I was with my response is always you going to fuck him? Ijs, unless you’re going to do my job mind the business that pays you.


Superficiality has never been my thing and I’ve never lived to please other people nor meet any consensus status. Some things you can’t see with the naked eye, you never know a person’s spiritual ranking, their manifesting abilities, and whether someone’s relationship is divinely guided. Which is according to science, the human eye is capable of perceiving only about 0.0035% of the entire electromagnetic spectrum. This means those who think they know more by what they see can be disproven. If you think about it a lot of people are physically attractive but venomous, others may not be societies standard of beauty but have a heart of gold, are excellent nurturers, can transmute energy, or immensely patient, then there are those who are more intelligent and gifted than what meets the eye. You see there’s a saying that family can be your biggest hater, ponder on why and what the reason is that you value other people's opinions of you or who you choose to be with.


Privilege is not legacy as one would think as per wealthy families and nepotism! Nepotism is detrimental because it can lead to unfair advantages, regardless of their qualifications or abilities. This can result in less qualified individuals being appointed to positions of power or influence, or wed which can ultimately harm the organization/institution and spouse. In my opinion marrying or dating for wealth can also erode trust, lead to decreased morals, and create burdensome people of society. Its like playing a synchronistic role for those who date or marry for money and selfish gain. It’s an odd behavior considering a lot of these “Wealthy families and individuals” are barely up $2 million per Suze Orman’s financial predictions for one person to retire and be comfortable as of 2024. In a culture created by our white counterparts as a governance system, many African Americans limit themselves to opportunities, advancement, and growth while oppressing those who are not part of the favored family circle, creating a culture of favoritism and inequality. Ultimately, to truly obtain and embrace the highest frequency of love, one can undermine the person meant for them and weaken their overall effectiveness and success in life. In conclusion, never let money, opportunity, addictions, he says she says, and other opinions determine who you choose to be with.


In conclusion, a lot of these black folks are out here running around with unreasonable expectations and a price attached to everything as a new form of chains, shalking their minds. A wise man once told me, you can't have bothyou either pursue your life chasing money or love. Find a happy medium and for goodness' sake make your own choice based on values and qualities when picking a spouse. PEACEEEEEE (in my Pam off Martin voice). 

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